Very nice. If you want something else to do with the strawberry tops and the goop from the syrup, strawberry kvass is delicious, and the friend zone non alcoholic cocktail made with it even better. I don’t know why she doesn’t put the tops in her kvass recipe but calls it zero waste, I throw them in with the leaves on them, it’s great and I think the raw fruit helps it ferment.

https://imbibemagazine.com/recipe/friend-zone-a-zero-proof-strawberry-drink/

I don’t disagree with any of this. Didn’t ever marry my ex, told him no, it was never my dream anyway. We were together a long time but in the end I was glad we hadn’t.

My husband wanted to more than I didn’t want to, and since we both had kids it did work out better, also I like his parents, so it’s just nice, & our kids like having more brothers and sisters. Still, told him if we were together 2 years we could move in together, if we were happy living together for 2 years he could ask about marriage.

But I’m only doing this once. We are about a dozen years in and it’s still so good, sex every day, both working, healthy and active which is not a certainty at this age.

I still think divorce (and abortion for that matter) need to be easy, we are better off as a society when people have more choice and aren’t forced into relationships. Just because I don’t want to do either of them I’d still “demand” they be legal. We are all in this together.

I mean, having a plan for the work you won’t be there to do is normal, I tell my boss “I will be out on Friday, will you do x, and when I get back I will do Y”.

And sure, would not request a day if the other two people in my department will both be out that same day.

This is in the flexible environment I work in, though. Don’t need to take PTO for appointments, can come in late or leave early, can take a long lunch to go for a walk or run, nobody even blinks. I come in late sometimes because I needed to do gardening before work. I am flexible for them because they are flexible for me.

Well thanks anxiety, I guess? When I eat like that I feel awful. As someone else noted though, fasting can feel good, too virtuous. Until the headache.

Falling asleep at night empty but not hungry, that is the best feeling to me. Like eating enough in the day that my body understands it’s been fed but long enough before sleeping so I don’t feel full at all.

Oh, I make do cold brew from coffee, grind it coarse and have a contraption that is like a beaker with a central metal filter column that holds the coffee. It does come out strong but is so smooth I am having trouble imagining it working in the cocktail.

I can’t have too many versions to try, I’ve had these parties before when working up recipes and 4 seems to be the magic number of variations.

Eggs smell so bad cooking but taste so good.

Broccoli too.

Is it possible you attract women who “want to be taken care of” because you don’t want them to work? I dunno, but do agree the subset of women who are willing to gamble away their own earnings potential on a guy is getting smaller. I do plenty of unpaid work at home, of course. But two incomes give us so much more, and now the kids are grown too, we have to catch up. I just have never been in a position to not work - stayed home with my first set of kids a few years, homeschooled for the first couple years, but went to college at night and worked part time, so when they did go to school I got a professional job and improved our lives. When I offered the same deal to my ex with the second set of kids, he stayed home and did cook, but just got radicalized on the Internet, wouldn’t go to school or anything to try to improve his chances at a job, then he got abusive verbally, then physically abusive and I left.

I do hope for you first a good job, with good pay.

I don’t feel particularly demanding, and my kids all seem to be in good relationships, some got good jobs in their field others didn’t, (I understand about graduating at the wrong time) but are making it work, two people working does make a difference.

And to be fair - before I went to school we lived with 2 other couples to make ends meet, house stuffed full of people working minimum wage jobs, so even though not in parents’ basement we did have no chance of making it on our own.

Maybe I run in a different crowd. My mom & dad both worked, my mom’s mom didn’t, my mom’s dad beat his wife (never my mom) when Grandma was 60 she divorced him. I don’t want to live in that world. She really had no options for a long time. My dad’s parents were rich, plenty of the women in his family worked but it wasn’t out of need, they just had opportunities most women didn’t back then, because money. My mom’s grandmother did work, she had a farm and was a midwife. I think her husband died young. I guess if you go back far enough everybody worked unless they were rich enough not to, right? Just like now.

I will say I would not personally date anyone who said “feminist nonsense”, you do seem unpleasant (relevant username) - I understand you are probably just venting but you seem to have some idealized version of the past that you are comparing the present to, it was not really good for most people. Your mom & dad were lucky. You aren’t going to get that by regressing the laws to make women less free.

Demanding jobs and bank accounts and no fault divorce?

What world do you want to live in? What the actual fuck, dude?

I work, husband works, we both do housework but also have some of it outsourced to a professional.

I was a single mom, which was an easier life than with my deadbeat ex, so yes of course I want a man who works, and husband was a single dad who used to also support a deadbeat wife, so yeah he wants a woman who works. Both of us can tell that our life is better together. It’s not wrong to want someone who makes your life better. Not wrong for me, not wrong for you. But the only way you can imagine that happening is by disadvantaging women legally again?

The “your check is ours, my check is mine” girls are outliers, like I hope you are. Most of us are working to survive. And even in our situation where we have together enough to have more than survival, it’s all one budget, everything in then we pay the bills. Then figure out what is left, if anything.

We both work.

We both do housework.

We are a couple, a family, we support each other.

My boss at work had to pay alimony to her deadbeat husband, who she had supported for years, and who didn’t do much work at home either. And my husband got custody of his kids AND step kids, because he was the more competent parent. So don’t think the change in the laws is one sided. It’s just less unequal.

I feel like anyone of any gender who lives alone for long enough will have trouble adapting to living with others. It must be so relaxing, never having to make room for anyone else’s stuff or opinions or habits!

But yeah - standards that exclude real people are going to net you nobody. I am not perfect, so why would I expect my husband to be? We do have a good and functional relationship, and it’s funny, when I was younger I figured I wanted kids but was much less convinced on a man, but in practice it’s worked out well.

I am thinking about something similar for Halloween (I will make my famous/infamous Black Jellybean but it’s polarizing). Will have a taste testing night with different parameters, but Galliano, and either moka pot coffee, chilled, or nitro cold brew from Dunkin Donuts, and choosing between Tequila Ocho reposado or Gonzalez 1939. And agave, yes. A coffee cocktail seems seasonal somehow.

Has the event happened? Was this well received, and was it easy to batch?

Galliano L’Authentico

I love the ridiculous bottle it comes in. Grew sunflowers this year and put just one tall flower in that tall bottle, it looked so good!

The other IUD resolved mine - the ones with progesterone reduce bleeding in period to almost zero or zero, then menopause, I haven’t dealt with the anemia for years now, the cause for my body was absolutely the heavy bleeding with cycles. But yes, during the years I had natural periods (or aggravated ones with that non hormonal IUD) it was so hard to keep my blood oxygen rich, it felt like fighting a losing battle.

I think overall though - this research is such good news, hopefully doctors will more aggressively treat the anemia now. When I was having it they would just sort of shrug and say it’s not ideal but you are always like this, probably nothing to worry about.

I read this article to my husband earlier today, it was so interesting. Anemia as a cause sounded surprising, but I had severe anemia once (copper IUD was causing hemorrhage) and couldn’t get up the stairs at work, it must strain the heart a lot.

I agree about Hegseth, what a waste, good looking guy rotten to the core. Also what’s her name, the Alaskan lady who was missing a few brain cells? Ever so pretty but oof, yuck. Shooting wolves out of a helicopter like freaking Cruella DeVille.

Ugh. I’m not even going to try to rank them. Ugly on the inside, and on the outside, all of them.

I was having trouble imagining someone less sexually attractive than Alex Jones, but Alex Jones with a Hitler moustache may actually win. Or maybe covering any part of his face makes him look better, and he should just grow all the facial hair and also wear sunglasses.

Yeah I have a liking problem with them. Cannot change the station fast enough. Something about them is nails on chalkboard for me.

From me, I have two to lay on you.

I hate Dust in the Wind. Nothing matters because we are all just dust in the wind. Yes, fine, dude but then why bother writing the fucking song? Just to depress the rest of us?

And that song about drinkin’ whiskey from the bottle never thinking bout tomarra singin Sweet Home Alabama aaaallll summer long. It’s in my husband’s workout playlist and despite being vaguely hooky it’s just such utter slop.

(I will say though that the same playlist convinced me AC DC are not nearly as bad as I remembered. Whole Lotta Rosie is a jam, and also It’s a Long Way to the Top is pretty good)

It’s not really Bob Dylan. Old Crow Medicine Show wrote most of it off a riff Bob Dylan did, it was more ‘inspired by Bob Dylan’

It’s a good song but have heard it enough for now.