By 2030, 45% of prime working age women in the US, defined as women aged between 25 and 44, will be single according to Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts – the largest share in history.
Hundreds of those women, from across the US, shared with the Guardian why they were single, how they felt about it and what they would be looking for in a future partner if they were still in the market for one.
“I hated being single after my last relationship broke down,” said Sarah, 43, a sales representative from California. “I miss having someone to cook for, to share things with. But now, my motto is: ‘My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if your presence is sweeter than my solitude.’”
Why wouldn’t no fault divorce be an inherent good for all why should you be able to trap someone who doesn’t want to stay for whatever reason?
Also in todays economy you don’t want a home maker you want another income
So let me fully clarify: I’m not an opponent of no-fault divorce. I cite women being strong proponents of it as evidence they don’t view their marriages as permanent from the very beginning.
I believe people enter into marriage waaaaay too casually. It’s a contract structured to last the rest of your life, a lot of the consideration in that contract has to do with estate, inheritance, insurance, power of attorney. Some stuff that’s really hard to make a contract for outside of marriage law. So why are so many people in the habit of signing a contract about all this stuff that they don’t intend to actually be around for? Is it because they’ll throw you a big party and you get to wear a big frilly dress if you go through with it?
Entry into a marriage, and on a related note the decision to have children, should be taken way more seriously than it is.
Also: IN TODAY’S ECONOMY, YOU DON’T WANT TODAY’S ECONOMY. Worker productivity is at an all-time high, wages are at an all-time low, by all accounts we should be working fewer people fewer hours, but somehow the exact opposite of that has happened. And yet there isn’t an armed revolt?
I don’t disagree with any of this. Didn’t ever marry my ex, told him no, it was never my dream anyway. We were together a long time but in the end I was glad we hadn’t.
My husband wanted to more than I didn’t want to, and since we both had kids it did work out better, also I like his parents, so it’s just nice, & our kids like having more brothers and sisters. Still, told him if we were together 2 years we could move in together, if we were happy living together for 2 years he could ask about marriage.
But I’m only doing this once. We are about a dozen years in and it’s still so good, sex every day, both working, healthy and active which is not a certainty at this age.
I still think divorce (and abortion for that matter) need to be easy, we are better off as a society when people have more choice and aren’t forced into relationships. Just because I don’t want to do either of them I’d still “demand” they be legal. We are all in this together.
Marriage shouldn’t be permanent if it is wrong for either party. In fact the idea that once you convinced someone to marry you they are stuck with you no matter how shitty a person you become is a disincentive to positive change that might benefit all.
You wish it was but it just isn’t. It’s a contract that exists so long as both parties remain invested that can and should be dissolved if its harmful to either party. This is actual reality. The overwhelming majority of women even those who are staunchly committed to their own marriages aren’t willing to subject women to a life sentence with a shithead if she doesn’t agree.
You might just be a moron
You then proceed to say all the reasons you are against no fault divorce. Also if you weren’t against it why would you have such a problem with women being proponents of it?
Let me ask you this: Would you get married to someone if they outright told you they intend to divorce you?
That seems to be the attitude that women approach marriage with these days, so why would any man be stupid enough to marry a woman?
Where? In your fantasies? Back in reality marriage is a big risk to both parties if it doesn’t work out and people mostly marry people they intend to stay with long term
Yeah, marriage is a big risk. Which is why I haven’t done it, and my certainty that I never will only increases with time because the basis I have to trust any given woman only decreases with age.
Like, my high school girlfriend? I grew up with her. I remember seeing her in diapers. I remember how much of a bully she was in first grade and how obsessed with puppies she was in middle school. I knew the contents of her character because I was there to see them installed. Didn’t marry her because I went to college and she joined the navy, I saw her maybe three more times in my life. Well I’m fresh out of women I grew up with, so now I’m supposed to meet a stranger and take her word for who she is?
The last three women I dated, collectively why I have given up on dating and on women, all three spent most of six months pretending to like everything I liked, telling me what she thought I wanted to hear, only to go through a personality change about the time she got tired of living the lie.
Not getting married, believe it or not, is a thing you can do.
So you have bad judgement AND little motivation and the problem is all women.
You who have no interest in marriage and have never had a serious relationship obviously are raging about women being able to just up and leave when you have never and will never be in that position. What do you know about women, relationships, or marriage? This is sounding more and more like typical incel shit.
Would you like to start talking about how hard you have been hitting the gym and you still can’t meet your “looksmatch”
Were you able to get a job with your level of reading comprehension?
Normally people accept the inherent inability to judge another human soul from the inside as the price of interaction with other human beings. What you are describing as some sort of pathology is in fact the human condition.
In brief yes you are supposed to meet people talk to them. See them live their life and adjudge how their speech and claims line up with their actions. This is what literally most people on the planet are doing most of them with at least SOME success. You are uniquely bad at this like worst 10% and you ascribe this somehow to a feature of the universe instead of admitting it is 100% your own cowardice. Basically its unlikely that you are uniquely bad just following a uniquely bad strategy that you will come to regret.