i barely spend time on the threadiverse anymore but rahhhh lemmy.cafe mention 🔥 i think at least at some point i was the most active person on here lol

had an interaction that strongly indicated OP may be an alt of some kind themself. something shady about a one month old account making posts like this.

prove it

What’s our over/under for how long until the executive order that conveniently pushes the boundaries of what “illegal” is.

the troll was banned long before OP was get your facts straight

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Ugh I’m so happy to hear that. And glad to help!

Or am I misunderstanding the larger context?

Yes, you are missing the larger context, but I appreciate the question. :) The larger context is that the LBZ admin is an older trans woman herself, and knows how the patterns of transphobia play out in online spaces. She recognizes that, whether or not Person X is “genuine” or “valid” in their gender identity, allowing people to scream “Identity X isn’t real” or similar in response to their mere existence is dangerous in that it makes the site worse and more toxic for every “genuine” or “valid” trans person.

Whether or not species and gender are two different things is largely irrelevant here, because we’re simply talking the context of keeping a sane and non-violent space for trans people. Most spaces take a more relaxed approach because they are not made by or for trans people, and that’s totally fine. But Ada, as a trans person, has chosen the more unique method of just blanket-banning any questioning or directed criticism of other users’ gender (which she labels “gatekeeping”) in order to keep the space peaceful and respectful.

And the thing is, whatever you or OP thinks about it, it works. That’s why you’ll see so many people defend Ada. Are there some assholes out there intentionally making a mockery of gender diversity? For sure! But does it help trans people to throw insults and yell about it in their spaces, instead of quietly blocking and reporting? For many, the answer is a resounding no.

Genuinely hope this helps! I get the vibe you are asking these questions with sincerity, so I am putting in the effort for ya here. :)

The user you are talking about was banned. So you are wrong about the “utterly inclusive” thing.

196 split because the original mods made the decision to move to the most hated instance, .world, without consulting the community. So you are wrong about the troll in question causing this.

They are getting lumped together because that’s the context of what OP did. OP has received mod action twice, both times for making directed commentary on the validity of another person’s gender (aka disrespecting).

But yeah, I think curbstickle misread your intent–you are both in the right here there’s just some miscommunication, Hopefully this clarifies. :)

Gotta defend your actions in the eyes of an admin you treat as despotic and whom you vowed to leave behind months ago. Very important. ;)

Preemptive bans are preemptive bans. Not the first time or server where this has happened, not the last. 👍

That’s totally okay! You don’t need to understand. :) The admins are simply asking users not to “take it to the streets,” so to speak, as it can make the whole instance feel more uncomfortable and toxic. They encouraged us to report and block users who were causing issues, which we did, so those users are now banned. This way, we avoided creating unnecessary discourse and potential honeypots for bigotry, which is really the main idea here.

It’s important to consider that misgendering isn’t the only kind of hurt trans people can experience online. Ada explicitly created LBZ to be a comfortable space for all trans people, and part of that includes addressing the agony that is logging in to see yours and other’s validity questioned at every turn.

I agree, Pug is not a transphobe. I think Ada agrees with me too. That’s why the modlog doesn’t show “transphobe,” it says “gatekeeping.” I agree that the users calling Pug a transphobe are taking it too far. Pug is simply a bad ally that refuses to admit trans people might know how they want to be treated and the kind of space they want to exist in.

OMG THATS WHAT I WAS REMEMBERING TY

i think my blood sugar was low or sumthin lmao

don’t even need an hour. “herb” has multiple regional pronunciations and so can receive both treatments depending on the context.

also my original comment was just wrong i don’t even know how i got to the point of writing that. “an hour” is the standard treatment of words starting with vowel sounds—the letters themselves don’t matter.

but “h” is treated as a consonant. which it is. duh. i feel so dumb lol.

“a apple” has more flavor to it than “an apple” and i acknowledge how cursed that makes me

no shame in that. it’s rough. fun fact: even the US founding fathers got it wrong

he has waged cruel war against human nature itself, violating it’s most sacred rights of life & liberty in the persons of a distant people who never offended him, captivating & carrying them into slavery in another hemisphere, or to incur miserable death in their transportation thither (Thomas Jefferson’s original rough draft of the Declaration of Independence)

later prints corrected this error which happens three times from Jefferson’s hand.