Woah, awesome fit! You look great! And I’m very jealous of your hair <3

Yay, congratulations! I’d have gotten impatient and started DIY if I had to wait that long…

I started with gel (massive PITA to apply but works well), did injections for a while (kind of a bother even once a week, and hormone levels going up and down isn’t very nice), and now on patches (awesome, no complaints). Probably only implants would be better.

Unless your cat is constantly licking wherever you applied the gel, you don’t need to worry. You can wash your hands after applying!

Why is the Socratic method my favorite?

They accepted her after nearly everyone got possessed.

Well yeah, but they didn’t have a chance to up till that point. Rumi stayed in the closet until she was outed by the demons right at the end. As I see it, all the conflict within the trio was driven by her trying to stay hidden. The message I got was: you don’t need to hide like you were taught as a kid; your friends will accept you; we’re stronger together.

But perhaps that’s just my experience coloring things. Society really has changed a lot since the 80s and 90s.

No, I know how the plot of the movie goes. I’m taking it out of context.

I gave away my favorite girl’s name to my daughter. After coming out I was nearly Naomi, but I don’t like how a lot of English speakers pronounce it as “nay / nigh oh me” instead of “now me”. My wife suggested Amy and I thought “fuck it, that’ll do.”

I stopped fighting. Trying to be someone I wasn’t was literally killing me.

Sure, there’s a lot to learn at first about How To Girl, and the dysphoria sucks until the hormones work their magic. But now I can just be me, no filter. Life is so much easier than it was before. And that means I can deal with any shit that comes my way without it overwhelming me.

Now I kind of want some transparent mustard?

So.

I went out with some friends, some of whom I keep in touch with frequently, some I haven’t met since before transitioning. Since it was a natural topic of conversation, I asked everyone (individually) about The Button. Immediate transformation, no takebacks.

Everyone said they would press it

Help.

Am I the seed?

Wow, congratulations! <3

Hi there! Thanks for stopping by <3

wtf am I supposed to do with this?

I recommend transitioning. You’ll feel a lot better.

How do I find out for sure?

If you think you are, you almost certainly are. But really, why worry about labels? The key question is, what do you want to do about it?

If it helps, the thing that made me absolutely certain was trying to imagine how I’d feel if I was actually a woman born and raised in a male vessel. Apart from being exactly what I was feeling, allowing myself to think of myself as a woman (even just hypothetically) felt so good I didn’t want to stop.

Am I allowed to be a trans lesbian because I’m not attracted to men?

Sure! You’re welcome to be a lesbian if you want.

Can I even come out, when it will ruin my whole life?

Ultimately it’s your decision. You’ve probably already considered the worst-case scenario if you do, but people can surprise you. It probably won’t be that bad!

Besides, you’ll get to be a woman for the rest of your life. Isn’t that worth a few awkward conversations?

I’m jealous of the youth, being old sucks.

Yeah, I know. I came out at 39. You can’t change the past, but you can change the future! Pick the path that will bring you the most joy. Plus, trans people frequently end up looking shockingly youthful. Like, spookily so. There is still time.

Good luck!

Choo choo! Next stop 💖 GIRL TOWN 💖

Sometimes I’m my own worst enemy!

So I joined a club for my latest fixation. Since I’d be interacting for a few hours up close with people who didn’t know me before, it was a good opportunity to see how well I pass. Of course, no weird looks or suspicious questions, and other than some slightly awkward answers to inquiries about my husband everything goes smoothly. However, my paranoia went into overdrive and I was convinced that everyone had clocked me and was really just pretending to accept me as a woman as some kind of joke. WTF, brain.

I’m probably going to have to come clean about my wife at some point before I slip up, but I’m quite enjoying being stealth for once!

Light skin; dark blonde here. My facial hair is darker than anywhere else. Six sessions at high power were enough to clear my cheeks and most of my neck of visible hairs, and significantly thin out around my mouth. I have quite a few gray hairs that will need electrolysis to clear, and I plan to take care of the rest that way too.

Yes! I second that. I grew up in a similar environment and it was very reassuring to read about Mia’s experiences and thoughts.

Not exactly the same, but starting out I felt really apprehensive about going out in overly feminine clothing. I guess I was embarrassed about possibly looking like a parody of a woman, or maybe just doing something new that I wasn’t used to. Anyway, the times when I gave in to my fear and wore something plain and androgynous, I’d feel terrible, like I was suppressing myself. I wanted to look and feel pretty and feminine!

So whenever I was choosing my clothes for the day and I felt that “are you sure?” fear, I remembered that feeling of betraying myself by not wearing what I wanted to. At first I did have to force myself a bit, kind of not think about what I was doing, but as soon as I got outside and realized that nobody cared what I was wearing, I could relax and enjoy feeling good about myself. It got a lot easier pretty quickly after that.

I guess my answer is yeah, it is scary and I totally understand being reluctant to take that first step. (On the other hand, you’ve already come out and are using a new name! I’d have thought that was a much bigger hurdle than a few clothes.) Try not to think too hard about it. You’re just ordering clothes; you don’t have to wear them, or show them to anybody. Then you can just wear them in your room; nobody has to see. And finally when you’re used to that, make a short trip outside, or whatever. Baby steps. If at any point it turns out you don’t like it, you can always stop, no harm done, right?

MAXIMUM🩷GAY

Hope you feel better on the estrogen than on the booze <3

I guess… order a skirt as well? ;3

This? This isn’t a bad spoon; it’s a serving spoon.
Yes, there’s a difference. It’s the wrong shape and doesn’t fit in my mouth.
No, I’m not being picky. You try eating with it!
Oh, you don’t want a spoon that big? That is exactly my point, thank you.

Every day is a cheat day when there’s pie!