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  • I am taking a class to learn a second language. The things I am having trouble with are the things I have trouble with in my native language (English) as well. Such as:

    • speaking in front of others
    • thinking of things to say
    • taking too long to say something because I need to prepare the wording in my head to make sure I am precise and will not be misunderstood (and get misunderstood anyway)
    • not rambling once I do start saying something
    • understanding what other people are saying when there is a lot of background noise
    • making eye contact

    Thankfully as soon as the lesson is over I can go directly home and be alone for several hours.















  • eksb@programming.devtoAutism@lemmy.worldI need some pointers
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    2 months ago

    You just described me better than I could, down to what my wife says. (Except I never got therapy.)

    I never got treatment, and do not see what advantage treatment could give at this stage of my life. The important thing for me is having a few friends who are also autistic, having a spouse who understands my issues, and having a job that accepts my strengths and weaknesses.

    I think the lack of friends who are also autistic was the big difficulty for me early in my life. I did not know I was autistic, and did not have any interactions with anybody else who was. I always felt like an outsider, even at home with my family. Having a few (but no more than a few) friends I could really relate and connect to, and the independence to be me and not have to conform all the time make life good.




  • eksb@programming.devtoAutism@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    4 months ago

    How old is she? It can take a long time to learn to express emotions. I was terrible at it in my teens, still pretty bad at it in my 20s, and I finally feel like I am getting kinda okay at it in my mid-40s.

    Be patient. Let her know that it is okay if she cannot explain an emotion today.

    Consider the two of you keeping a diary of times that she was and was not able to express feelings. Maybe in the future at other times she can go through it and say “I feel like I felt when we wrote this entry”, or “I think this word/expression/description describes how I felt then”, or “I think this fictional character we are watching/reading is supposed to feel how I felt at this time”. Maybe it will help her learn how to explain some emotions, or least help you identify in retrospect.