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Cake day: December 4th, 2023

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  • I think it’s a really weird confluence of acceptance seeking mixed with internalized homophobia from a religious upbringing. There’s such a strong self hatred they can’t help but take it out on others, because they feel:

    1. Jealous that they don’t get to suck cock too (or for the ladies, have a meal at the bearded clam).
    2. Jealous of the self acceptance others have had. That is, if they’re gay, “why don’t they hate themselves for that too?”
    3. Enacting violence against someone like that is a perverse proxy for violence against the part of themselves they hate the most.

    But like, that’s just my opinion, man…





  • You’re absolutely right. The person in this post is a fucking maniac, and they’ve completely lost the plot, but they’re right for the completely wrong reasons.

    Work is useful and therapeutic for people because it’s a way to derive purpose and meaning through the things people need from you. You don’t want to let your colleagues down, or have your missed work increase their burden. It’s also a distraction and something to do besides sit at the house with your thoughts like you said.

    Therapy gives you mechanisms to cope in healthy ways with the grief. Work can be part of a healthy overarching coping strategy. But it can very easily be a maladaptive way to avoid dealing with it.

    There are those who work to live and others who live to work…. And only one of those groups is doing it right…