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Y’all Qaeda

Haha no I’ve spent a lot of time working on things that ultimately don’t matter much. And sometimes get consumed by it to the point of starting to pull all nighters. But I do enjoy it, yup lol.

Hope you’re feeling better and thanks for the encouragement!

Yay, I’m glad you like the idea! As I say it might take time though. And depending on how much, I might split up punk, heavy and general alternative. There’s already some good stuff in this thread, stuff that was out when I was going out to clubs and shit but that just never got played anywhere. Apart from the obvious stuff like Arch Enemy and Nightwish. Funny that.

Anyway, at least now my next stint of making lists won’t be so pointless.

Hello… Hope you’re hanging in there and taking care of yourself this evening. Sorry for taking so long to respond to this, I meant to get back to this thread sooner.

It’s a real pity that I can’t even see that community (and a couple of others there) from here. I wish you could convince your friend to open an alt community in more neutral ground. Or try to make some sort of amends with all of the instances that are de-federated with hilariouschaos. There’s some big ones de-federated from it, even piefed.social, which I tried the other day.

If you’re interested, now that I’m attending to this post, it seems likely that my next fixation on something to categorise and make lists of is going to be this very topic lol. I’ll probably only be done in a couple of months from now but if you would like, I could post my results in Women’s Stuff (or I could pass it on to you to post, if you prefer). Otherwise if you think it’s a better idea, I could post it to gpral from another account, although I wish I could do that without feeling bad about Blåhaj people being blocked off from it.

And, just gonna ping your new account in case you never look at the old one anymore: @[email protected]

I don’t really know any jokes but maybe a random comic strip can help the cause (had to dig for something I haven’t downloaded from Lemmy):

Just want to say, after reading that, including the statement from the band themselves, it reads to me like these members got kicked out, then vented their frustrations. Maybe I’m missing something but this all sounds like pretty standard band politics to me, especially when egos and perfectionism are concerned. At least I don’t see anything about nazi salutes or groupie abuse or some shit in there.

Anyway, sorry for the late reply. Got to this late. Finally got everything listed and categorized and decided to start to with the punk kind of stuff first. Just started listening this morning and I was hooked from the first track on the first album. I can even say it’s exactly the kind of punk rock I’ve been missing and looking for for a long time now. So thanks for this suggestion!

I wonder how various admins finally put a stop to that. Haven’t got a message from her in a while now that I think of it.

I got kinda (very) overwhelmed by this thread. I was expecting like 5 responses, so you thank you very much for all the suggestions. I have finally made a list from all of this and will be replacing just about my entire music rotation with everything here. Once I find my favourites, I’ll probably let you know some time in the future lol.

Thought I might as well drop some names that are already in my collection that I haven’t seen mentioned here, for the sake of anyone that might come past here in future. Including stuff that’s more on the alternative / hard rock side of things.

General Alternative / Rock:

• 4 Non Blondes
• Anneke van Giersbergen (singer of The Gathering)

Old School:

• Heart
• Janis Joplin
• Siouxsie Sioux and the Banshees

Alternative because off-beat / weird:

• Portishead
• Tori Amos
• Björk

Punk:

• Destroy Boys (been on my list for a while, haven’t got around to listening to much yet)
• The Distillers
• Nekra (sadly they seem to only have a demo and this one EP: https://open.spotify.com/album/153G7zAHPl4hinlqhn1lvy)

Hard Rock / Grunge:

• DILLY DALLY
• Guano Apes
• Skunk Anansie

Heavy:

• Devilskin (band I discovered in New Zealand)
• Octavia Sperati (singer went on to do an album or two for The Gathering)

I think it’s a fun thought. Like, particularly when I’m thinking about past regrets and shit, there’s definitely a few key moments where things could’ve gone differently and my life would be drastically different right now. And I seem to be in the timeline where I made all the worst possible choices at these key moments lol.

But I don’t particularly believe in different timelines or dwell on it. For all that I can do in this timeline that I’m in, the only direction that I can go is forwards, not backwards or sideways.

😾

Love this thread. I feel like I hover somewhere close to aroace but also not quite. I can identify with a lot of things said in this thread but feel like I don’t completely fit the description. Maybe spilling my guts about my own experience in this regard will help me figure it out.

I don’t dislike sex and intimacy but don’t actively seek it out myself and can go without indefinitely if need be (it’s probably been at least 10 years at this point anyway). But I have no aversion to it either. I can think of two people another lifetime ago with whom I had that immediate mutual electricity (and who, for reasons that would require an essay to explain, nothing ever happened with, they’re both kinda what ifs in my life) but other than that, literally every relationship or fling that I’ve had was initiated by the other person. Even my first relationship back in high school where I had zero clue what I was supposed to do and didn’t even kiss her for the first month or two lol.

And as far as romantic attraction goes, I’m not even sure what that really is. I like connecting with people on some level. If I was going to find a partner I guess I would be looking for something close to a best friend. Getting together and spending time and flirting and cuddling and all that shit is awesome. But also permanently sharing your personal space and bed and cupboard and bathroom with someone else sounds like it would be fun at first, then get a little suffocating and cause fighting and misery. Romance is fun but so is independence.

I could possibly be demisexual but I’m not sure because like I said, while I don’t go out looking for it, I never had an aversion to it whenever it found me either.

Edit: I think might come and go because sometimes it does get lonely. It comes and goes the same way as ‘gender’. As far as that goes, all I’m sure of is what I’m not. But I still float between the ‘other’ thing, a third thing or nothing.

Edit 2: I’m definitely capable of having crushes though so idk.

Winter. I also like the Autumn that I’ve read about, seen pictures of and seen people talk about. But we don’t get much of a noticeable Autumn or Spring where I’m from. A few leaves on a few trees here and there will start changing colours but that’s about it.

So Winter. Because you can wear your cool shit, you can do things without sweat and I prefer being snug and cosy under a duvet or two to lying naked under a fan and still not escaping the heat.

This “Autumn” that people speak of sure seems lovely though. Like the perfect season if it really existed here.

Thanks, you’re also one of the people I enjoy seeing around here.

I think it is probably partially feelings of “they hate me now” but also self hate. The one who can’t stand having me around the most sometimes is me. And being emo and shit isn’t exactly a likeable trait either lol.

As I said, I’m in two minds though. Maybe I wake up in the morning feeling better or maybe I wake up and delete this app, at least until I’ve got my shit together.

Thanks for listening and responding, you’re honestly too kind.

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Omg twinsies except for the doing well and having a good life part.

Probably posting this right as this thread is about to get removed but doesn’t matter, just need a place to park this comment. And I think it’s mental health related.

Kinda thinking of stepping away from this place until there’s more of a crowd to disappear to. A lot of people talk about how it’s nice to see familiar faces around and I definitely agree. But also, I feel a little exposed and stupid in a smaller crowd way too often as well. And that’s not the crowd, that’s a me problem.

But I wish it were a little bigger and a little busier here. I felt stupid and did less cringing at dumb shitposts when I was just another comment out of a couple hundred. One on one conversations felt easier when that conversation was just a thread in a busy post and not 90% of the post. And on a bigger and busier platform you can go through your highs and lows without feeling like you need to fake your own death and start over after a bad day.

So I’m in two minds about all of this right now. I do get a lot of joy from this place and a lot of people here. But small towns have their draw backs too.

Daydreamer that dreamt themself out of a functional life. Not just a late bloomer but still a sprout. A hopeful idealistic child in the body of a jaded misanthropic adult. I dance to a tune playing in my earphones where only I can hear it most of the time, unless someone is close enough.

I feel like maybe some more context I could add is that we have “tomato sauce” that’s pretty similar to ketchup. Comes in a bottle to pour from and is one of the most regularly used sauces. Still processed I guess but thicker and better tasting and definitely not as sweet as the American stuff. As opposed to tomato paste or tinned tomato or whatever.

I think that is kinda true. Like, American brands that sell here are branded as “Heinz Ketchup” for example. And it’s definitely more processed or whatever. But I feel like most people would still say “pass the tomato sauce”, or if they say ketchup it’s in a joking way. I couldn’t speak for my whole country though.