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  • “Male fail” is a slang term from the trans community (at least online, not sure how widespread it is in general). It refers to when a trans woman is trying to fly under the radar by presenting as male (also known as boy-moding), but for whatever reason does not manage to pass as one and is recognized as female. Sometimes due to mannerisms, sometimes because their HRT has progressed too far, etc. This is usually seen as a good thing, since it is gender-affirming to not be seen as your assigned gender, but can also be dangerous if it leads to transphobic abuse.

    In this case, the implication is that the local “Lord” has been collecting pregnant mare urine to extract feminizing hormones for ye olde HRT, and is embarrassed and happy that it is apparently working, since the peasant saw her as a lady.










  • Transtronaut@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoPeople Twitter@sh.itjust.worksPeak logic
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    3 months ago

    I might be able to help clear this up for you. Whether or not the take is spicy depends on how transphobic or ignorant the parties involved are, so I’ll start by addressing the facts.

    • If you are a woman, then it is gay to be attracted to a trans woman.

    • If you are a man, then it is not gay to be attracted to a trans woman.

    • Regardless of whether you or anyone else is a man, woman, gay, or otherwise, and of whatever physical bits are involved, you are not obligated to be attracted to anyone in particular.

    • If you are a straight man, and you do not visually perceive the trans woman as appearing consistent with your idea of what a woman should look like, then you are unlikely to be attracted to her.

    • If you are a straight man who is attracted to a trans woman and feel uncomfortable with or threatened by it, then you are transphobic. This doesn’t necessarily mean you hate trans people, it can just mean that you fear being associated with them or having to think about them.

    On spiciness:

    • If you are addressing people who are ignorant of all this, they will not know enough to consider your take spicy.
    • Your statement is too vague to determine whether your intent is transphobic or not. If the context of your take is that you do not consider trans women to be women, then your take will be spicy to people who are not transphobic, but it will not be spicy to people who are transphobic (or ignorant, as mentioned previously).