I also have bipolar II / autism. It can definitely be a grind. I’m v lucky that I am self employed in a creative field, where my oddness is valued.

The most difficult aspect of life for us is, imo, dating. Especially with the rise of ‘the ick’ phenomenon. Neurotypicsl people usually make a v quick internal judgement that we’re ‘weird’ or ‘unsuitable for friendship’ (very illuminating and sad study on this I read recently).

During the pandemic, I got heavily into stoic philosophy, along with some Buddhist learnings. Not mastered either but they’ve been a bigger help than medication I take.

Check out an audio book: ‘Derren Brown - Happy’. It will give you a bunch of very effective tools on how to manage external stressors. If you never used audible, they usually have a ‘one month free trial, keep one audiobook’ deal. Get the above book then cancel 😁

I’m using Sync to write this comment :)

Is this your video? Am interested about your setup.

I’ve done a few live PA over the years (trance / freeform), nowadays I’m writing big beat and really want to start performing it live. Got a maschine 2 but it doesn’t seem to integrate properly with anything that’s not the maschine sampler.

My immediate thought is that it’s not the action of smoking cannabis causing these cavities, instead…

It’s fairly commonly accepted that habitual cannabis use can lead to demotivation. I’m a very regular dry herb vaper and with exception of a few strains, I have to make a great effort to make sure I do daily tasks when I’m high.

I’d also suggest that ppl who are self medicating due to depression are less likely to brush their teeth twice a day. Finally, perhaps cannabis users are more likely to consume sugary snacks?

In a nutshell, these findings don’t surprise me! But I would be surprised if cannabis was causative and not just a correlated factor.

Clearly what we’re seeing here is the T1000. I highly recommend running away before it reforms.

There’s also an amazing book I found very helpful, by noted Mind Wizard, Derren Brown. It’s just called ‘Happy’. It’s available as an audio book if you don’t enjoy reading… stars off going over why common self help techniques are ineffective, then gets into mental techniques to strengthen our mind and increase our happiness.

I’d say it made me about 25% happier, priceless (literally cause Audible offer one free audio book to new members!Just make sure to cancel within 28 days, you get to keep the audio book)

As someone who struggles often with depression (bipolar II), something I find really helpful is the concept that we feed our consciousness like we feed our stomachs. If we put bad food in, our health suffers; and similarly if we consume a lot of media that’s stressful, anxiety inducing, or stuff like horror / reality TV… Unsurprisingly it can plant seeds of anxiety and stress that make stressors in our life more difficult to deal with.

When I find myself getting quite sad I fill my mind with comedy, silly TV shows like What We Do In The Shadows / Parks & Rec / It’s Always Sunny. Or stand-up. Anything that makes me laugh. Do you have any go-to shows that lift your mood?

Really sorry this has been your experience. I’ve moved around a fair bit from a young age and I learned pretty quickly that if I don’t make the effort to stay in touch with people, very few of them will check in. Only a few true friends.

If I rationalise it, it’s because few people are genuinely selfless; most of us are wrapped up in our own lives and problems. Also, please don’t let social media interaction dictate how you perceive the world. When we’re less active (or inactive), sites like Facebook decrease the amount we’re shown to other people. At the moments when we need social interaction the most, social media can make it more difficult to get genuinely caring interactions.

I don’t have any suggestions for how you can fix it other than to try and find some IRL connections / groups / activities where you can have some genuine experiences and hopefully make some connections with kinder people.

Not sure if you’ll see any of this Stamets, as maybe you blocked me after our interaction the other week when you said I was being aggressively negative about Modern Family. But you are clearly well liked and respected here on lemmy, that’s not imaginary or fake. Hopefully you can find a way to make similar connections irl in 2024 and make some kind friends!

Ahhh very sweet! Thanks for sharing this pic. It’s always a proud moment when something so much smaller trusts you like this.

My dad has a pair of magpies that visit his garden everyday. Not sure how long I’ll be living with him (final stages of buying a house), I left them some nuts last time I was there but will definitely make it a regular habit, thanks for the tip :)

I have a few dreams in life. Some, I have realised. Others, I have not.

Yet to befriend a crow or magpie, not really into birds but I love corvids. There’s just something about them; they radiate intelligence and curiosity. I’m guessing they have good reason to be skittish, but I just want to provide them treats and make friends!

No Man’s Sky - Finally lifting off the planet into space for the first time reignited my love of space and the cosmos. Made me feel awe and wonder

The Stanley Parable - never had a game make me laugh till I had tears in my eyes before. This game really fucks with your perception of what is real and just how common / predictable some gaming tropes have become

My toes are unstubbable

why does Spock enjoy this particular ability to reify something into being Star Trek? Why is it he – not Kirk, not McCoy – that gets called on when the showrunners want to “bulk up” on their Star Trek bona fides?

I think it’s because Kirk, McCoy etc are humans; when we think of Star Trek, we think of alien races, alien planets, exploration of new civilisations. The captains / staff change but Spock remains, because he’s an excellent bridge between the human and the alien; also, his insistence on logic which is tinged with human emotions makes for a rich potential pallete of storylines / comedy. Not to mention the iconic look which combines alien and human features. It’s familiar and alien all at once which makes it memorable.

IMO :)

It’s good to know I wasn’t imagining things, I made a comment just after release saying I was over seemingly every character trying to fuck

I went through a similar thing, conclusion I came to was that as Tetris is so popular, the owners of the IP have it on lockdown… it is quite a specific IP that’s kinda hard to do something similar-but-the-same.

Options I came up with were pirating a copy, or xbox game pass (iirc Tetris Effect is available there). Or… are there any Gameboy emulators that run on mobile?

Sorry to hear about your childhood. Are you one of these superhumans I watch playing Tetris and thinking “how the FUCK can anyone react that quickly?!”. I’m pleased to hear though that you found a way to not be traumatised!

Can I ask what role she did? I read a book last year called ‘The Devil You Know - Tales of Forensic Psychiatry’. It was very illuminating and interesting, each chapter a different (anonymised) story of one of her patients. Especially her ‘bike lock’ theory of why some people can commit such horrific crimes.

You shouldn’t have to apologise for your behaviour as a child. You were a child, she was a parent. If anything your childhood behaviour is to some extent HER responsibility.

From what you’ve said, it sounds as if you’re bending over backwards trying to repair your relationship while your mum is being stubborn & petty. If it were me, I’d make a final attempt to reach out and explicitly say that I am desperately trying to mend our relationship, but it seems as if she isn’t interested in doing that… and if that’s the case, can she just be upfront about it so you can both move on.

“You don’t seem autistic to me”

Never sure if people are trying to offer a compliment / comfort or accusing me of lying when they say this. Like, yes, I don’t seem autistic, because when I don’t mask my autism people call me weird. Of course I try to fit in.