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Cake day: July 5th, 2023

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  • I mean historically people didn’t necessarily think of it as mutilation, even if now most people understand it to be extreme. Many cats have bad scratching habits and people don’t know to train their cats not to do so. Some will definitely trash your furniture and people looked at de-clawing as a way to stop it vs giving up the cat for adoptuon. Are all cats even trainable to not scratch? I don’t know personally.

    I’m kind of curious how banning declawing of cats influences rates of abandonment and euthanization. I had many cats when I was younger, some which were bad scratchers and got de-clawed and others which weren’t prone to it so didn’t get de-clawed. I’d like to get one now but know my wife (and I probably) won’t be able to tolerate our furniture and drapes getting tore up if I can’t train it not to, and I hate the idea of adopting one only to give it up later, so I’ll likely not get one at all. I wonder if and how many get put down simply because fewer adopt them when de-clawing is banned.






  • Agreed… this couple isn’t hurting either way.

    However as they said the limit hasn’t changed in almost 20 years. For most older people in America their home is the single most valuable possession and what many have to sell when they are unable to care for themselves and have to go into some kind of care facility. For people living in a HCOL area, their home can easily be many times more valuable than their savings and their primary or only asset of significant value, and a $1M house is a starter home.

    It makes sense for the limits to be increased, but the couple that’s the subject of this article doesn’t deserve anyone getting teary-eyed.


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    In most states if you’re party to a conversation you have a right to record it and share it with others if you’d like. Federally it’s legal too, including phone calls. Some states do restrict recording without informing all parties, but most don’t as it’s important means of protecting yourself sometimes.

    I emphasized “if you’re party” above because it’s an important distinction. In many situations you cannot record the conversation of others if you’re not an active participant, though there are exceptions for things said/done in public and in/on your property.






  • Waiting too long and feeling ashamed has been a problem for me my whole life. I’ve tried to address it with a few of my most cherished relationships and can say I’ve rekindled a few thankfully after literally decades. I’ve spoken about it with many of my friends and family too and found I’m not the only one that feels this way, which is helpful.

    If you have a few people you have lost touch with and wish you hadn’t, by all means reach out to them and share how you feel. Might make you a little vulnerable but in my experience it’s worth it.




  • Not artificial sweeteners in general… specifically sucralose was tested. Numerous studies have shown it produces an insulin response.

    Also, there are a variety of natural alternative sweeteners available now that don’t produce an insulin response and have low or no calories, such as stevia, monk fruit extract and allulose. Erithritol as well, though it may have a few drawbacks.



  • I too was constantly accused of cheating throughout my first marriage. Not for any reason other than her suspicions… it was exhausting! She also took offense to the fact that I’m not the jealous type. Some dude would hit on her and she’d be upset it didn’t make me mad. I’d respond “Are you interested?” “Well no!” “Then why should I be worried or upset. I trust you.” It took me far too long to realize she suspected me because she knew she’d cheat on me if the situation were reversed and she figured everyone was like her.

    During our divorce our court-ordered psychiatrist said he believed she suffered from some psychosis but would need more time to properly diagnose it. Since then I’ve come to realize her behavior is well-described as a vulnerable narcissist, and combined with her alcoholism and paranoia she destroyed just about every relationship she had before she died. It was a very sad and lonely end… I wish she’d have gotten help.