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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • There aren’t a lot of details for me to base this on so I’m speculating here, but it sounds like you two are already in a relationship of sorts. One that is more than friendship but less than a romantic one.

    It sounds like you two share a lot with each other, talk a lot and spend a lot of time together. This would create an intimacy that wouldn’t exist in a typical friendship, because it’s usually what people in a romantic relationship do. And if neither of you have partners, you would lean on each other for that emotional support.

    Now, as for taking the next step, you should tread slowly and carefully. I suggest you continue to support your friend as a friend, and let her come to terms with her feelings and her fears. Unfortunately the only thing you can do is continue to be around her and be her friend. There’s nothing else that will really tip the scales, and anything else you try could tilt them against you.

    Your friend is afraid of ruining the relationship she already has with you, because she values it and values you. Only patience and time will let her understand that fear and decide if it’s worth the risk.







  • I didn’t see it suggested yet, but you should check out Selaco. It’s a fairly new FPS with tight gunplay and retro graphics. The enemies AI is well made, they will work together to hunt you and try to flank you. The weapons are a mix of standard fare with some new stuff, and you can modify them with upgrade packs similar to how Doom 2016 does it. The upgrades give each weapon a good variety for different play styles.

    The first chapter is released and playable, and there are 2 more chapters coming. The first chapter has a good amount of gameplay, I put 35 hours in it.


  • I’ll read the Consumer Reports reviews and see what the comments say. Their rankings can give you an idea of the models to avoid at least. Even in the same brand, one model can be wildly different from another model simply due to who the real manufacturer was, or just the parts used.

    Sometimes the reviews are detailed and thorough, but sometimes they only list the basics. Usually for the appliances they go in depth in my experience.



  • I’m assuming since your going to university that you’re now 18. That makes you an adult, with all the legal freedoms. You are legally capable of making your own decisions that, crucially, your parents can’t stop.

    Honestly, you know the answer to this. The problem is you are afraid of what the consequences will be. Moving out will damage your relationship with your parents, but honestly? It’s already damaged. Their dependence on you is too much for you to handle right now. Their need for control in your life is hurting you. You have tried talking to them about it, but either they don’t understand or aren’t willing to listen.

    The financial aid that they are providing is another problem holding you back from moving out I would guess. Getting a job will help to offset that, and you said that you are getting student loans as well. Check with your university about any financial aid programs they have too. And while it’s not glamorous, there are organizations like the food bank and thrift stores that can help you get by in lean times.

    The last consequence of a decision to move out will be the uncertainty and instability you will face. You will likely be doing it without the support of your parents. But you aren’t totally without support! You have your friends that can help you, from helping with the move, to giving advice, or simply just being a shoulder to lean on or an ear that will listen.

    I won’t sugar coat this. It’s going to be hard. But! It is not impossible. Things look bleak and dark right now, but it won’t always look like that. Once you take that first step of moving out, and getting out from under the shadow of your parents, things will start to change. You have the strength to make it through this, because you’ve had the strength to make it this far. Don’t forget that.






  • I was surprised when she brought up Mortal Kombat as an example of over sexualized characters, and not, say, the entire Dead or Alive series. Especially Dead or Alive Xtreme Beach Volleyball. She does make some good points in her video, and I don’t want to dismiss her point of view, but I feel she took the easy way out in addressing this point.

    Games, and movies and tv, have treated women as sexual objects for a long time, and now the pendulum has swung the opposite way in reaction to that. It’s going to take a while for games, and movies and tv, to allow for better perspectives on women. I think the indy scene is where we will find this happening before we ever see it in the major studios, since the latter has to worry about limiting risk and making investors happy. But hopefully the recent flops will be a shot across the bow and wake them up.

    Except for that, this was a good video. She lays out her arguments well. I don’t agree with every point, but I understand where she’s coming from and can respect her point of view.


  • It sounds like she’s an introvert, and you’re an extrovert.

    For you, chatting is effortless and energizing. For her, it requires effort and can be draining.

    Meanwhile, you find mental exercises like deep thought or creating require effort and can be draining. For her, these are effortless and energizing.

    You need to talk with her about her and your needs, and you must recognize the differences between you and find a middle ground where you can each be happy. That could mean you go out with friends to get your chatting needs and give her the space to recharge, and you and her find topics that interest her to talk about.

    One last bit of advice: don’t treat this like it’s a you versus her problem. Treat it like it’s you and her versus the problem. The collaborative approach will yield better solutions and results.