comic by BrookeValley

  • gnomesaiyan@lemmy.world
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    29 days ago

    Respectfully, as an older trans woman, I’ve always felt that it’s the style of clothes you wear and the subtle demure and grace you carry that makes you presentable as a woman. You won’t just look the part, you will feel it. The looks you will get are of admiration and envy. They’ll see you how a mortal sees a goddess. It’s very powerful.

    But if you’re looking like you just stepped out of Hot Topic or the Harajuku district, plastered with makeup like a clown, you’re gonna get forced acceptance, straight into the hugbox. Yeah, you’re really cute and I want to snuggle with you, but I believe that this is one of the main stigmas that trans women are known for, hence my refusal to dress like that. I do have some fun pieces in that wheelhouse, but they’re for parties or events, not everyday wear. Maybe hit up Macy’s or Kohl’s for starters and let it organically evolve from there.

    What I’m saying is, just be careful how you present yourself. First impressions count.

    • VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      27 days ago

      The advice I received was “dress like a woman, not a girl.” Similarly, “Full respect to drag queens, but too much makeup does make you look like a drag queen, not a woman going about her day.”