SigmarStern

I’m dead

I’m in my mid-fourties and my brain doesn’t to have received that memo…

And of those 30 people no one said “Are you sure? Because if you are not, don’t do it.” I mean, I believe you, but that’s cruel. There’s no magic instinct thing that will come over every parent immediately, once they hold their child for the first time. And those people should have known this! Still, they encouraged you to do one of the toughest and life altering things possible and promised you, that you would love it. You won’t. Maybe you never will.

But you can still love your kid, even if you don’t like being a parent. I know fathers who didn’t want to be a parent, but they did their best regardless and now love their kids very much. They still loathe being a parent though.

First year is the toughest in my experience. It gets better. It will never get easy. Find other parents with similar experiences. You are absolutely not alone in this.

I was a goth in my youth and they were among the more controversial bands. They could be just edge lords or Nazis. The guys that listened to them turned out to be Nazis, so there’s that.

Maybe a “Death in June” band shirt. Which makes things … well… I dunno. Probably not better.

Don’t forget “Ja!” https://tse1.mm.bing.net/th?id=OIP.zFtYRskRiRhbki-Tbz2qgAAAAA&pid=Api

Fair. Ich habe noch in Erinnerung, wie wir in der Metro deutlich günstiger Großpackungen einkaufen konnnten. Aber ich kenne nicht die Umstände und denen der Kiosk einkaufen muss.

Den Punkt verstehe ich auch nicht. Sollte die nicht im Großhandel viel günstiger sein? Und Pommes ebenfalls?

Not a linguist, but a German. As far as I know, this is correct. One dialect has become standard or high German and everything else is considered a dialect.

Swiss German is a completely different beast and here no dialect has become the defacto standard. But German is only one of the four official languages of Switzerland.

Exactly! I mean, my son has an autism diagnosis, and my wife has ADS, and my best friend has both, and I work in a field where almost everyone is diagnosed with something, but surely I am normal, because no one diagnosed me. Yet.

And a lot of time spent in Bunkers

I also want to know

Came here to say that Switzerland somehow managed to introduce a competitor to Paypal that works flawlessly and EVERYBODY uses it. Twint is the first app I was told to install.

That’s a pretty bleak outlook. It took me about four months to find a job without any contacts. And I live here now. Granted I do speak German, but I don’t speak Swiss-German and I have made friends with other expats and swiss people alike. There’s a job market that is also open for foreigners. I was expecting much more push back from the people around me but they have been very welcoming.

A B permit was easy to get. You need a job and that’s pretty much it. After 5 years you can apply for a C permit. You can try to become a citizen after ten years but that’s a different beast. I have nine years and three months to go. I played a game of DND with a Swiss, a Russian and an Argentinian(?) here. My kid goes to school with someone whose parents are brazilian and dutch who met in Australia. So, it’s definitely possible.

My first winter in Berlin was one of the hardest times in my life. That city is brutal in winter.

I drowned some ants when I was a little kid in our backyard because I was scared of them and also curious. My neighbor told me to think about what I did. I was mortified. I’m a vegan now.

Kids need to learn that kind of empathy. Although I don’t think I would have ever thought about about ripping limbs from frogs.